Every girl dreams of the "grand gesture". You know, the grand gesture~ that moment at the end of the movie when the man decides he can't live without "her" after all and states his feelings and intentions in over the top, romantic style. Does this happen in real life?
I wonder all the time.
Hundreds of films and novels over my thirty years have made me susceptible to the concept of the grand gesture. Fairy tale love, soulmate love~ whatever you call it, I'm a sucker for it. Meant to be. What does that even mean? I believe in it, absolutely, but never quite known it. And I have never experienced the grand gesture. Sometimes I think my idealism has been formed by all those movies I have wept through. After a recent "disagreement" with someone I cared for this ran through my mind~ What if I go home to find him waiting on my door step? If that were ever to happen would there be flowers? Some kind of declaration? This didn't happen, naturally.
The door step was empty, the phone silent.
Do men (in real life) believe in the grand gesture? Or does taking that leap mean being too vulnerable, thus too scary to actually act? Risking all is terrifying but the grand gesture is always used and loved in the movies because of that very element of the unknown. The bigger the risk the greater the reward. People love that. Especially women.
We love the idea of the grand gesture.
Why do we dream of this? For me~ it is because if someone ever did that for me then that would be utter proof, not only of the person's feelings for me but also a testament to the kind of man they are themselves. I dream of someone that is brave enough and strong enough to take that leap. Every girl wants a man who will take a risk for them. My advice to all boys out there~ scary be damned, risk all for that girl you love. Do it. Sometimes real life can be like the movies. Fairy tale love does exist. Everyone wants a grand gesture, sometime in their life.
Embrace the romance and leap.
My all time favourite grand gestures on film:
-Will driving cross country to "see about a girl" in Good Will Hunting
-Harry flying to Paris to tell Erica he loves her in
Something's Gotta Give
-Mark's Christmastime cue card love tribute to Juliet in Love Actually
-Mr. Darcy's declaration of love to his supposed nemesis
Elizabeth Bennet in Pride & Prejudice
-Linus quitting his company and moving to Paris for his love in Sabrina
There must be more..... What are your favourite grand gestures?
Have you ever experienced this in real life?